Emotional Intelligence So Easy Children Can Do It

Think back to when you were a child and your relationships with friends were lighthearted and fun. Chances are, you can remember a time when you joyfully skipped through life… and if somebody ruffled your feathers, you could easily shake it off.

Why does it now seem that our relationships require much more work to maintain now that we’ve grown up? Why do we seek out seek out a means of building emotional intelligence when we were such a natural at it back when we were kids?

Sure, we were immature, naïve, impulsive…

But, we quickly adapted… we quickly discriminated… we quickly let go of what bothered us and moved on.

Take another look at the difference in the emotional intelligence between children and adults.

Just imagine two kids – Jimmy and Johnny – playing in the garden, giggling and having a good time. All of a sudden, Jimmy steps on Johnny’s foot. They start arguing and fighting. But what happens three minutes later? They’re back to giggling and playing again.

Compare that to what happens to most adults nowdays…

If that situation happens now, what do we as adults tend to do? We quit our jobs. We refuse to cooperate with each other. We may even refuse to talk to each other for 20 years.

Take a look around. Do you notice anyone like that?

Clearly there’s a difference in ability between children and adults to demonstrate emotional intelligence.

So what happened? What changed as we grew up?

In simple terms, we just got piled up with feelings. We learned the meaning of mortality, of danger. We experienced the feelings associated with sorrow, fear, and hostility in more and more tangible ways.

That’s the excuse, anyway. In truth, we just forgot that we could let go of those feelings—as we so easily did when we were kids.

And that is the important lesson to learn here!

The truth is, all of these terrible feelings are just that… feelings! And… they can be let go of. We see it all the time in children. We can even remember way back when we demonstrated such emotional intelligence.

Here’s what’s really going to shock you—especially if you’ve been a long time student of emotional intelligence. Dropping these feelings that pull us away from being emotionally intelligent is easy!


Because dropping these feelings is a natural ability we all possess. After all, we didn’t have to learn emotional intelligence when we were kids. We just did it.

The only difference now is that we don’t think we can do it anymore. Instead, we think we are trapped in our ways. We think we’re conditioned.

Not true.

The best way to think about emotional intelligence is that it’s a skill. And just like any other skill, all you need to do to get good at it is simply to practice… practice… practice.

And that’s not all. The simplest of tools enable you to achieve emotional intelligence—real, honest EQ—and demonstrate immediate results.

We invite you to find out more about our EQ profiling tools. You’ll be surprised how easy it is to permanently achieve emotional intelligence.

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